A Renewed Perspective on Blogging

In the nearly four years that I’ve been at this blogging thing, this little online world has changed and evolved. DRASTICALLY. Especially recently with the shift toward everything Instagram. I can’t help but look at my social accounts and examine my blog content while thinking, “am I good enough to do this anymore?” or “maybe I just don’t fit into this community.” Most days I feel like the anti-blogger! I use affiliate links, but I’ve never been accepted into rewardStyle; my photography skills are mediocre; and my social following is pretty minimal. Not acing any of those three points has made me question on more than one occasion lately if I should just clean my hands of all of it. But, thanks to the kindness of a stranger I have a renewed perspective on blogging.

A Renewed Perspective on Blogging
Late last week, an email popped up in my inbox with the subject line, “Thank you!” I didn’t recognize the sender name, so I fully admit that my gut reaction was that the email was spam. However, the email was from Kate, who’s an Etsy shop owner and reader of my blog. She simply wanted to thank me for recommendations that I’ve provided on jeans and some beauty items and to reach out to say that she enjoys following along on here and my Instagram. Isn’t that just so nice?

Of course I immediately replied to say thanks and to let her know how thrilled I was that something that I recommended was making a difference to her. In the course of my reply, I mentioned how nice it was to receive such a message as I’m a smaller blogger and have been feeling a little down in the dumps with it as of late. You know what Kate’s response was? She said how she initially was hesitant to reach out to me because she saw me as one of the bigger bloggers, so it’s all about perspective. CUE THE LIGHT BULB MOMENT.

Now there’s the golden reminder about why I got into blogging in the first place! Sharing what I love with others. It’s not about numbers or social shares or followers. It’s about being passionate about something or a myriad of somethings that you want to share! I mean, really – who cares if it’s not well-received by today’s blogging standards? I consider it a win that anyone at all reads what I write, and even better if one of my silly recommendations makes a difference to someone. Alissa said it best when she said, “don’t blog for anyone but yourself,” and I think that both applies and supports the whole point of this post.

Moving forward, I’m going to do my best to carry a renewed perspective of blogging with me. What I consider myself to be might not be what someone else perceives. It truly is all about perspective, and I’m thankful to Kate to opening my eyes to that! No voice is too small or too big, just like there’s room for all of us to have an opinion and to openly share whatever we feel like. I’ll keep doing me, and you keep on doing you!

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  1. 11.19.17
    Lexi said:

    Wow. Just wow. This resonates with me so much as I’ve recently returned to blogging after feeling so… small in the grand scheme of things. Amidst all the “should”s of blogging, we tend to get lost in the commercialness of it—when really, the reason we blog to begin with is to share our opinions, thoughts, and advice. No more, nothing less. I love how you capture that perspective here! And yay for Kate, what perfect timing to reach out!

    • 11.21.17

      Yes! That’s a great way to put it – getting lost in the commercialness of this whole thing. I just want us all to share what we love and be friends! 🙂 thanks so much for taking the time to read and comment!

  2. 11.17.17
    Brittany Steinkamp said:

    Love, love, love this!! Whenever I get stressed about the industry, not having the large following, etc, I try to remember why I started in the first place. And to remember to keep doing for yourself! Great post!!

    • 11.19.17

      You’re so right! Remembering why we started and blogging just for yourself is the way to go. Thanks for stopping by, lady!

  3. 11.17.17
    Heather said:

    I think remembering why you started and blogging for yourself can make all the difference in your mood about blogging and even sharing on Insta. I stopped sharing a lot on Insta when it started being all about the aesthetic and look to gain followers. Now I don’t let that stop me, but it’s taken me a long time to get back to posting. Thanks for sharing this, I think it’s what a lot of bloggers that have been around for a few years feel.

    • 11.19.17

      You’re right – that reminder of why we started this in the first place is a great way to get back to normal when you’re feeling discouraged. Instagram can be frustrating, but it doesn’t have to be a forced thing! I’ve found what helps most is if I’m not feeling it – even if that’s for a week or more – I just don’t post. Oh well, nobody is going to cry about it!

  4. 11.15.17

    I totally agree with you about it all being about perspective! I don’t think that I’ll ever be a big time blogger but that’s not why i started blogging in the first place. Plus I think that we all really enjoy the connections we’ve made through blogging as well!

  5. 11.15.17

    I love this post! And I love that one of your readers reached out to you with such positive feedback! I always love getting those emails or comments like, ‘long time reader/follower, first time commenting…’etc. It goes to show you, we have no idea how many people follow and look forward to reading your blog! I am also trying to just focus on blogging for me! I for one enjoy reading your blog on the daily!

    • 11.16.17

      It’s so true, and getting those emails/comments really are the best. You know I want to come raid your closet/love your blog so please never change, lol. 🙂

  6. 11.15.17
    peonies passionfruit said:

    Love this post and can relate to a lot of things that you are saying about this whole blogging journey. I tend not to follow blogging trends and just blog about what is relevant and of interest to me. It’s nice when someone reaches out to you to let you know that your work has made a difference in their lives.

    Eme x


    • 11.16.17

      Good for you, girl! Blogging for yourself really is the best way to go. If it makes you happy then you’re bound to make others happy, too! 🙂

  7. 11.14.17

    I needed this post, friend! I think that’s what i need to get into to reignite a passion for blogging- solely blogging for myself. What i want to talk about and share. What a sweet email to receive! I’ve got to admit- I’ve slacked majorly on reading other blogs lately, but yours is one I keep up with because it always feels so relatable, it’s always enjoyable to read!

    • 11.14.17

      Oh, I’m so glad! I wanted to share this for the sole purpose of helping others that feel the same way as I do. You are the sweetest, thank you! Yours is one of my favorite, too – you’re such a great writer!

  8. 11.14.17

    you are so right, it is all about perspective and blogging for yourself. i was just talking to someone else about this today, i don’t know of any ‘big’ bloggers that actually kept their friends or small community when they got big, because they start to not be themselves or blogging for other people, and it’s hard to relate to that or keep a friendship with that. the internet is a huge place, there is room enough for all of us.

    • 11.14.17

      Yes! Couldn’t agree with you more. I’ve stopped following so many of the “bigger” blogs because it’s just not relatable anymore. There’s definitely room for all of us and our voices!

  9. 11.14.17

    Karly can I even begin to tell you how much I LOVE this post?!?!?! The line about blogging for yourself really hit home. I feel like people are still reading blogs but not taking the time to comment as much. I know we are still reaching people but ultimately I started my blog for me and that is something I really have to remind myself. What do I want to get out of this? I’m so glad your reader reached out to you and gave you that aha moment. This post really stuck with me.

    • 11.14.17

      Awe Amanda, I’m so glad! You totally kill it at the blog game, and it has been so fun to watch you grow since we started around the same time. I agree with you about the whole commenting thing – it’s frustrating and at times discouraging because you feel like nobody is reading. But obviously people are! You just have to keep doing things for yourself because at the end of the day that’s all that matters.

  10. 11.14.17
    Debra Stachelski said:

    Based on what I’ve been reading lately, what you’re feeling is being felt by a lot of bloggers out there – I’m so glad Kate reached out to you and that helped change your perspective a bit, one person can truly make a difference and make your day!

  11. 11.13.17
    Leah said:

    I met you a few months ago when I introduced myself to you in Target! Although I am not in your age group I really enjoy your blog. Your recommendations for beauty and fashion items are great and I love that you are based in FDL!

    • 11.14.17

      Hi, Leah! It was so fun to meet you a few months back – you made me feel so cool to be recognized in public, haha! I’m grateful that you visit and read what I have to say – it means the world!

  12. 11.13.17
    Kay R. said:

    Love this!! For the record I love your blog. 🙂

  13. 11.13.17
    Christina Sotherden said:

    Love this! Not that I “don’t care” anymore but I just don’t care to keep up with what’s cool and the normal of blogging and just share what I want/like to. & I love reading here!!

    • 11.14.17

      Yes! Totally with you. I care but don’t care about what’s popular or supposedly the thing to do with other bloggers. You know I adore you and your blog, so don’t change a thing! 🙂

  14. 11.13.17
    Emily Dunham said:

    Agreed – yes to all this!

  15. 11.13.17

    Girl YES to all of this! I also consider myself a smaller blogger who has yet to be accepted by RewardStyle either *womp womp*. But I refuse to buy followers which is how a lot of bigger bloggers got started, and I do this for me and only me. It’s such a breath of fresh air to connect with other bloggers who have been at it for a while, and are true to themselves <3

    Green Fashionista

    • 11.14.17

      Yay! Yes, girl! Your last sentence summed it all up. It’s so nice to still have a connected community with other bloggers that have either “made it” or not, but they’re still true to themselves. I love that you continue to blog for you because it shows and I love your space!

  16. 11.13.17

    I just love this! Not only is it a great post and great perspective, but it is also a good reminder about the power of a simple thank you. You are amazing. You are a wonderful blogger!!

    Amy Ann
    Straight A Style

    • 11.14.17

      You’re so right – the simple act of a thank you is a powerful thing in addition to providing perspective. Thanks so much, Amy – that means a lot!

  17. 11.13.17

    What a great post, and so nice of Kate to reach out to you! It’s amazing how perspective changes everything, right? I’ve personally always looked up to you and love your blog! 🙂

    • 11.14.17

      Cara! That’s so sweet. Thank you. You and your blog kill it ALWAYS. Perspective seems to be key these days, so I’m glad something like this happened so I could readjust mine.

  18. 11.13.17
    Jenn said:

    I like who you are and enjoy reading, so I’m glad you’ve got a renewed perspective on it. Definitely do it for you, and then the rest doesn’t matter as much, or at all!

    • 11.14.17

      Thanks, girly! xx You’re so right, it’s just time to not really care about the rest of it. Life is too short, right?

  19. 11.13.17
    A said:

    I’m not a blogger but I’m a longtime reader. I love your blog, it’s one of my very favorites. I usually “save” it to read during my lunch break. I like that you are relatable and that you are genuine! I have honestly stopped reading many of the “huge” bloggers because I prefer to spend my limited free time reading blogs that are real, if that makes sense!

    • 11.14.17

      Thank you so much! That really means a lot to me. I definitely try to keep things real around here. And, I’m with you – some of the bigger bloggers are good for inspiration or dreamy images, but I just don’t find any of it relatable anymore. It’s nice to still feel a connection!

  20. 11.13.17
    Caroline said:

    I definitely go back and forth with how I feel about blogging and my Instagram feed. I mean there are SO many big timers in this city and I am like how can I compete with that? It also makes me feel like I am just not cool enough.:-/ But I still enjoy posting when I feel inspired. Anyways.. you are awesome and I love how true you are yourself. Keep being you girl and I really hope that we can meet some day too! 🙂

    • 11.14.17

      Girl, you have such a great fashion sense and cute personality – don’t doubt yourself! 🙂 Keep doing you. And yes, one of these days I’ll make it to the city.

  21. 11.13.17

    Love this post! I have so many mixed feelings about Instagram and am all about the blog!

  22. 11.13.17
    Pamela said:

    Girl, I feel you. Sometimes it’s so hard to feel motivated but little notes like that really can make a huge difference. Sometimes I get so discouraged that my blog hasn’t grown as much as some other blogger’s who started at the same time as me but as long as you still enjoy doing it, that’s all that matters! <3, Pamela Sequins & Sea Breezes

    • 11.14.17

      It’s so true! It can be discouraging, but lately it’s just kind of like whatever. We’ve stayed true to ourselves, and I think that’s all that matters!

  23. 11.13.17
    Cassie Schelldorf said:

    I’ve been saying more and more recently, “Life is all about perspective.” I would have never considered your blog to be small, or that your pictures aren’t good (I think they’re great!) and I often think, “I could never do that!” LoL. You’re doing great 🙂 Keep up the great content and work!

    • 11.14.17

      You’re the sweetest! Once again, you’re proving my point about perspective and I guess I shouldn’t be so hard on myself. 🙂 Thank you!

  24. 11.13.17
    Olivia Blankenberg said:

    Thanks for sharing! Always love your posts. As a fellow Wisconsin girl, I love that I can relate to your posts/content. Thanks for the budget friendly recommendations and realistic inspiration for someone like me!

    • 11.14.17

      I’m so glad Olivia! Glad to know I have fellow Wisconsin girls out there – I sometimes feel a little isolated being a Midwest blogger!

  25. 11.13.17
    Biana Perez said:

    Having followed you since the start I love your voice and your suggestions and come to your space because I truly enjoy it!! You do you and we will all continue to come to your space and read and enjoy! xo, Biana-BlovedBoston

    • 11.14.17

      You’re the best, Biana – thank you! It’s been so fun to be on this journey together basically from the start, and I love continuing to watch/read you kill it!

  26. 11.13.17

    Thanks for sharing this! Such a great reminder too that we should reach out to people more and let them know that they are impacting us. It’s such an easy way to encourage people and make their day!